Friday, April 11, 2014

Kids & the Fruitful Congregations Journey

Over the past several months I have heard the question raised in various locations by various people: "Why are we doing FCJ?"

After it was announced in services several weeks ago that the church council had voted to move on to step 2 in the FCJ process, I wanted my Sunday school teachers to know the exciting news that they would miss hearing in the service. I took a couple of minutes to share the news that I had previously heard at 9 am and then decided spur of the moment to try and help the kids relate to the larger decisions the church is making right now.

Many of the children hear the initials FCJ, and I can only imagine they are thinking of other initials we use in daily life that are relevant to them - PB&J, KFC, TTYL, LOL, etc.

Do they wonder if we are talking about food or if this is special language adults use in their text messages about church? Or maybe it's just another church word they don't understand.

From my standpoint as Director of Children's Ministries at First United Methodist, I feel that we are taking these important steps to make sure that our church is alive and relevant for the children in our congregation so they can bring their children here in 20+ years.

I shared with the kids that there were two special girls in our classroom whose mom had attended our church when she was a little girl, and because adults had loved and cared for our church in previous generations, these two kiddos could attend the church their mom had when she was young. I wish I could accurately describe the look of pride on the faces of Lainey and Katelyn Jeffers when they found out I was talking about their mom Melissa.

I told the kids that the adults were making these special decisions right now because they cared about God and our church and wanted to make sure that kids like Laurel and Eli and Ethan and Andreina all had a church where they could bring their kids when they were mommies and daddies.

How powerful for kids to know that we don't just care about them right now, but we care about who they will become and how we can help them know and experience God's love both now, and also in the distant future.

Another question I have heard is "But are we doing a bad job?"

Any time people, plans and institutions are evaluated there's a level of anxiety. However, going through several years of schooling to obtain my teaching degree, along with supervising student teachers in my later years of teaching, I came to appreciate the need for evaluation and to see that the word 'evaluation' didn't need to have a negative connotation.

At first I was anxious. Would I fail? Would it all be bad? What if they had nothing good to say? After several evaluations from supervising teachers, principals and university officials, I realized that they would point out several items that I was doing properly and then choose something for me to work on before the next evaluation.

It was never presented as 'man - you're horrible at this or 'maybe you should rethink teaching as your career path'. It was constructive feedback that would further my knowledge and skill as an educator and really - who wants to stay mediocre? Don't we want to continue growing and maturing? I continue to strive to be a better friend, employee, spouse, parent, daughter and child of God on a daily basis and if I can gleam knowledge that will help me in that quest I am all ears. I am excited that my church family has chosen to do the same in this place that we call home.

I liken this second step of the FCJ process to a student teaching evaluation. We will have evaluators come through our doors and experience how we do church. They will observe, ask questions and try to discern how we live out Christ's mission within our church walls, as well as in the community that surrounds our church.  It's a scary thought, but I have a hunch they will find many things that we do well and another list of things that we can pursue to become even better at sharing God's love with others. The constructive feedback from those involved and our commitment to continually strive for better-than-mediocre will ensure that our downtown Bloomington church is making disciples of Christ for the transformation of the world for years to come.

Alex Lamb
Director of Children's Ministries

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